I was doing some internet research on being a male submissive a few years back. While doing this I came across a statement that I didn’t quite understand at the time. Since I was new to discovering my submissive side, the statement made me move on from that particular site and I never went back or can’t seem to remember it now. To sum it up, the statement said something along the line of “Doms don’t want to always put you in your place. They want you to follow rules, rituals, and be a good submissive.” I remember thinking “what’s the fun in that?”
Fast forward to today. I’m all grown up in my submissiveness. I think back to that site that I turned my nose up and think that I should have grasped that earlier. Mistress doesn’t always want to participate in corrective punishment. She wants proactive punishment, rituals that are followed, items that are met. I finally got on the same page a few weeks ago. Took me long enough.
Over the past three weeks, I have been writing up additional options to our dom/sub contract that builds in rituals and requirements that Mistress enjoys. I did it for her. She is busy being everything to everyone and just needs a sub that has it together. I was careful to not “top from the bottom”. I will definitely say that these are not for my pleasure. Everything was created with her pleasure in mind.
I sat with her two weeks ago and shared my additions. She read them, grinned, and said she loved them. The additions were written in a way that is less work but more enjoyable for her. We implemented them this last week and she was all smiles.
I don’t want to divulge all of the additions as we are still working out the process. One of the additions is “surprise self bondage.” Mistress loves me restrained and gagged to do her bidding but the thought of going through all the work can be daunting after long day. So, we implemented a self initiation where I begin the ritual by asking if she would like a surprise. Upon her confirmation, I will ask if she wants anything in particular. With or without a guide, I’ll do the best I can with what I’ve got. She can then carry on about her evening how she pleases. She can periodically check her naughty cam to check in or join in if she wants.
It went well last week and we both look forward to this week. I’ll keep you updated. And just remember, some Doms just want a sub to do their part without being a brat. A lesson I wish I paid more attention to years ago.
Kneeling Kitty 